October 7th, 2012

radtransfem:

This article just went up over at Boldly Go, a relatively new blog I’ve been reading for a while. A few excerpts:

I cannot count how many times in many poly communities I’ve come across the ever fun figure of the Poly Patriarch. A white, economically privileged male “ally” of “the gays” who appropriates queer struggles, queer blood, queer death, and queer hatred because if he tells his mean ex-wife about having two girlfriends in their 20s, she might go all harpy on him and tell the courts and he *could* lose custody. While I won’t deny that there are real threats that non-monogamous people face due to slut shaming, misogyny, and general heterosexist cispatriarchical bullshit, I seriously doubt that Poly Patriarch who snorts at mentions of feminism and who probably has never got shit for who he loves in his life is going to be one of the first ones that the hammer falls on. I’m sick to death of “allies” telling me that they have a right to call themselves queer just because they date more than one person, especially when they have lipstick parties in middle class suburbia while queer kids are forced into homelessness, nonconsensual sex work, and death…

The third huge problem that I’ve run into is something that I see in a lot of communities: the perpetuation of abuse and abusers. This is a similar problem to what I’ve run into with the BDSM community, where people swear up and down that abusers are eliminated by some sort of Darwinistic natural selection within communities – that no one of course would put up with that sort of awful behaviour! And I run across a similar sort of sentiment within poly, except there’s little to no actual acknowledgement about how poly is kind of ideal for abusers…

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September 6th, 2012

polycule:

Jason Mraz is polyamorous, and I’m not just saying that because I want him to be in love with me. This is pretty unquestioningly polyamorous, amirite? Also it’s beautiful, regardless:

Ok go, go hang your heart on, any tree, 
You can make yourself available to anybody, 
Cause every livin’ person knows you are a prize, 
Whichever way you go I’ll be easy to find, 
I don’t ask for much, just be honest, with me 
I don’t ask for much 

Think of this song as a promise you can do what you want, 
If you decide you wanna move into a new stage, 
Deleting me from pages in your mission statement, 
My love is unconditional, make no mistake, 
I don’t ask for much, just be honest, with me, 
I don’t ask for much, just be honest, with me, 

Who we are, when love is what it wants to be, 
We are free, and we are, having the best day ever by far, 
Being treated to the light, like a superstar 


I can hold space while you see what your heart has to say about me, 
I acknowledge you for what you do to keep strong, 
There’s no dotted line to sign away your freedom, 
I’ll always stand beside you, don’t get me wrong, 
I don’t ask for much, just be honest, with me, 

Who we are, when love is what it wants to be, 
We are free and, we are, having the best day ever by far, 
Being treated to the light, like a superstar 

If I miscommunicated I apologize, 
If the picture that I painted wasn’t very nice, 
My love is standing by you whatever you decide, 
I don’t ask for much, just be honest, with me, 
I don’t ask for much, just be honest, with me 

Who we are, when love is what it wants to be, 
We are free, and we are having the best day ever by far, 
Yes we are… Yes we are…

September 5th, 2012

perfection

August 30th, 2012

arcadebutts:

❒ Single
❒ Taken
✔ I don’t want to get married. I want to stay single and let my hair flow through the wind, as I ride through the glen firing arrows into the sunset.

(Source: 10000zambamboz, via theirriandjhiquishow-deactivate)

August 29th, 2012

polycule:

Short answer: yes. absolutely 100%.

Long answer: this link.