New Book: The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and The Reality of Cheating discusses Cheating & Monogamism Instant Must Add To My Book Collection
The Author, Eric Anderson says:
Contrary to what we may think, most men aren’t cheating because they don’t love their partner, he says; they cheat because they just want to have sex with others. And society shouldn’t pooh-pooh that.
Monogamy’s stronghold on our beliefs — what he calls monogamism — brings ostracism and judgment to anyone who questions or strays from its boundaries. That doesn’t make sense to Anderson, who wonders why we stigmatize someone who has a fling more than couples who divorce — throwing away a marriage rich in history and love, upsetting their kids’ lives — over something like sex.
Monogamy isn’t the only “proper” way to be in a relationship, and he says it’s time that society finds “multiple forms of acceptable sexual relationship types — including sexually open relationships — that coexist without hierarchy or hegemony.” It’s especially important for today’s young men, for whom monogamous sex seems more boring than in generations past because of easy premarital sex and pornography.
I CAN NOT with heterosexist white renderings of non-monogamy! This pseudo science is why poly people can’t have nice things! Open relationships should not exists so that men get the benefit of having someone take care of them while they sleep with whomever they want. And I can’t with most of the questions in this interview. Read at your own risk!
